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ALFRED ADLER
1870 - 1937
Dr. C. George Boeree
I would like to introduce Alfred Adler by talking about
someone Adler never knew: Theodore Roosevelt. Born to Martha and Theodore
Senior in Manhattan on October 27, 1858, he was said to be a particularly
beautiful baby who needed no help entering his new world. His parents were
strong, intelligent, handsome, and quite well-to-do. It should have been an
idyllic childhood
But "Teedie," as he was called, was not as healthy as he
first appeared. He had severe asthma, and tended to catch colds easily,
develop coughs and fevers, and suffer from nausea and diarrhea. He was small
and thin. His voice was reedy, and remained so even in adulthood. He became
malnourished and was often forced by his asthma to sleep sitting up in
chairs. Several times, he came dangerously close to dying from lack of
oxygen.
Not to paint too negative a picture, Teedie was an active
boy -- some would say over-active -- and had a fantastic personality. He was
full of curiosity about nature and would lead expeditions of cousins to find
mice, squirrels, snakes, frogs, and anything else that could be dissected or
pickled. His repeated confinement when his asthma flared up turned him to
books, which he devoured throughout his life. He may have been sickly, but
he certainly had a desire to live!
After traveling through Europe with his family, his health
became worse. He had grown taller but no more muscular. Finally, with
encouragement from the family doctor, Roosevelt Senior encouraged the boy,
now twelve, to begin lifting weights. Like anything else he tackled, he did
this enthusiastically. He got healthier, and for the first time in his life
got through a whole month without an attack of asthma.
When he was thirteen, he became aware of another defect of
his: When he found that he couldn't hit anything with the rifle his father
had given him. When friends read a billboard to him -- he didn't realize it
had writing on it -- it was discovered that he was terribly nearsighted!
In the same year, he was sent off to the country on his
own after a bad attack of asthma. On the way, he was waylaid by a couple of
other boys his own age. He found that not only couldn't he defend himself,
he couldn't even lay a hand on them. He later announced to his father his
intention to learn to box. By the time he went to Harvard, he was not only a
healthier Teddy Roosevelt, but was a regular winner of a variety of athletic
contests.
The rest, as they say, is history. "Teedie" Roosevelt went
on to become a successful New York assemblyman, North Dakota cowboy, New
York commissioner of police, Assistant secretary of the Navy, lieutenant
colonel of the "Rough Riders," the Governor of New York, and best-selling
author, all by the age of forty. With the death of President William
McKinley in 1901, Theodore Roosevelt became the youngest president of the
United States.
How is it that someone so sickly should become so healthy,
vigorous, and successful? Why is it that some children, sickly or not,
thrive, while others wither away? Is the drive that Roosevelt had peculiar
to him, or is it something that lies in each of us? These kinds of questions
intrigued a young Viennese physician named Alfred Adler, and led him to
develop his theory, called Individual Psychology.
Biography
Alfred Adler was born in the suburbs of Vienna on February
7, 1870, the third child, second son, of a Jewish grain merchant and his
wife. As a child, Alfred developed rickets, which kept him from walking
until he was four years old. At five, he nearly died of pneumonia. It was at
this age that he decided to be a physician.
Alfred was an average student and preferred playing
outdoors to being cooped up in school. He was quite outgoing, popular, and
active, and was known for his efforts at outdoing his older brother,
Sigmund.
He received a medical degree from the University of Vienna
in 1895. During his college years, he became attached to a group of
socialist students, among which he found his wife-to-be, Raissa Timofeyewna
Epstein. She was an intellectual and social activist who had come from
Russia to study in Vienna. They married in 1897 and eventually had four
children, two of whom became psychiatrists.
He began his medical career as an ophthalmologist, but he
soon switched to general practice, and established his office in a
lower-class part of Vienna, across from the
Prater, a combination amusement park and circus. His clients included
circus people, and it has been suggested (Furtmuller, 1965) that the unusual
strengths and weaknesses of the performers led to his insights into organ
inferiorities and compensation.
He then turned to psychiatry, and in 1907 was invited to
join Freud's discussion group. After writing papers on organic inferiority,
which were quite compatible with Freud's views, he wrote, first, a paper
concerning an aggression instinct, which Freud did not approve of,
and then a paper on children's feelings of inferiority, which suggested that
Freud's sexual notions be taken more metaphorically than literally.
Although Freud named Adler the president of the Viennese
Analytic Society and the co-editor of the organization's newsletter, Adler
didn't stop his criticism. A debate between Adler's supporters and Freud's
was arranged, but it resulted in Adler, with nine other members of the
organization, resigning
to form the Society for Free Psychoanalysis in 1911. This organization
became The Society for Individual Psychology in the following year.
During World War I, Adler served as a physician in the
Austrian Army, first on the Russian front, and later in a children's
hospital. He saw first hand the damage that war does, and his thought turned
increasingly to the concept of social interest. He felt that if
humanity was to survive, it had to change its ways!
After the war, he was involved in various projects,
including clinics attached to state schools and the training of teachers. In
1926, he went to the United States to lecture, and he eventually accepted a
visiting position at the Long Island College of Medicine. In 1934, he and
his family left Vienna forever. On May 28, 1937, during a series of lectures
at Aberdeen University, he died of a heart attack.
Theory
Alfred Adler postulates a single "drive" or motivating
force behind all our behavior and experience. By the time his theory had
gelled into its most mature form, he called that motivating force the
striving for perfection. It is the desire we all have to fulfill our
potentials, to come closer and closer to our ideal. It is, as many of you
will already see, very similar to the more popular idea of
self-actualization.
"Perfection" and "ideal" are troublesome words, though. On
the one hand, they are very positive goals. Shouldn't we all be striving for
the ideal? And yet, in psychology, they are often given a rather negative
connotation. Perfection and ideals are, practically by definition, things
you can't reach. Many people, in fact, live very sad and painful lives
trying to be perfect! As you will see, other theorists, like Karen Horney
and Carl Rogers, emphasize this problem. Adler talks about it, too. But he
sees this negative kind of idealism as a perversion of the more positive
understanding. We will return to this in a little while.
Striving for perfection was not the first phrase Adler
used to refer to his single motivating force. His earliest phrase was the
aggression drive, referring to the reaction we have when other drives,
such as our need to eat, be sexually satisfied, get things done, or be
loved, are frustrated. It might be better called the assertiveness drive,
since we tend to think of aggression as physical and negative. But it was
Adler's idea of the aggression drive that first caused friction between him
and Freud. Freud was afraid that it would detract from the crucial position
of the sex drive in psychoanalytic theory. Despite Freud's dislike for the
idea, he himself introduced something very similar much later in his life:
the death instinct.
Another word Adler used to refer to basic motivation was
compensation, or striving to overcome. Since we all have problems,
short-comings, inferiorities of one sort or another, Adler felt, earlier in
his writing, that our personalities could be accounted for by the ways in
which we do -- or don't -- compensate or overcome those problems. The idea
still plays an important role in his theory, as you will see, but he
rejected it as a label for the basic motive because it makes it sound as if
it is your problems that cause you to be what you are.
One of Adler's earliest phrases was masculine protest.
He noted something pretty obvious in his culture (and by no means absent
from our own): Boys were held in higher esteem than girls. Boys wanted,
often desperately, to be thought of as strong, aggressive, in control --
i.e. "masculine" -- and not weak, passive, or dependent -- i.e. "feminine."
The point, of course, was that men are somehow basically better than women.
They do, after all, have the power, the education, and apparently the talent
and motivation needed to do "great things," and women don't.
You can still hear this in the kinds of comments older
people make about little boys and girls: If a baby boy fusses or demands to
have his own way (masculine protest!), they will say he's a natural boy; If
a little girl is quiet and shy, she is praised for her femininity; If, on
the other hand, the boy is quiet and shy, they worry that he might grow up
to be a sissy; Or if a girl is assertive and gets her way, they call her a
"tomboy" and will try to reassure you that she'll grow out of it!
But Adler did not see men's assertiveness and success in
the world as due to some innate superiority. He saw it as a reflection of
the fact that boys are encouraged to be assertive in life, and girls are
discouraged. Both boys and girls, however, begin life with the capacity for
"protest!" Because so many people misunderstood him to mean that men are,
innately, more assertive, lead him to limit his use of the phrase.
The last phrase he used, before switching to striving for
perfection, was striving for superiority. His use of this phrase
reflects one of the philosophical roots of his ideas: Friederich Nietzsche
developed a philosophy that considered the will to power the basic motive of
human life. Although striving for superiority does refer to the desire to be
better, it also contains the idea that we want to be better than others,
rather than better in our own right. Adler later tended to use striving for
superiority more in reference to unhealthy or neurotic striving.
Life style
A lot of this playing with words reflects Adler's groping
towards a really different kind of personality theory than that represented
by Freud's. Freud's theory was what we nowadays would call a reductionistic
one: He tried most of his life to get the concepts down to the physiological
level. Although he admitted failure in the end, life is nevertheless
explained in terms of basic physiological needs. In addition, Freud tended
to "carve up" the person into smaller theoretical concepts -- the id, ego,
and superego -- as well.
Adler was influenced by the writings of Jan Smuts, the
South African philosopher and statesman. Smuts felt that, in order to
understand people, we have to understand them more as unified wholes than as
a collection of bits and pieces, and we have to understand them in the
context of their environment, both physical and social. This approach is
called holism, and Adler took it very much to heart.
First, to reflect the idea that we should see people as
wholes rather than parts, he decided to label his approach to psychology
individual psychology. The word individual means literally "un-divided."
Second, instead of talking about a person's personality,
with the traditional sense of internal traits, structures, dynamics,
conflicts, and so on, he preferred to talk about style of life
(nowadays, "lifestyle"). Life style refers to how you live your life, how
you handle problems and interpersonal relations. Here's what he himself had
to say about it: "The style of life of a tree is the individuality of a tree
expressing itself and molding itself in an environment. We recognize a style
when we see it against a background of an environment different from what we
expect, for then we realize that every tree has a life pattern and is not
merely a mechanical reaction to the environment."
Teleology
The last point -- that lifestyle is "not merely a
mechanical reaction" -- is a second way in which Adler differs dramatically
from Freud. For Freud, the things that happened in the past, such as early
childhood trauma, determine what you are like in the present. Adler sees
motivation as a matter of moving towards the future, rather than being
driven, mechanistically, by the past. We are drawn towards our goals, our
purposes, our ideals. This is called teleology.
Moving things from the past into the future has some
dramatic effects. Since the future is not here yet, a teleological approach
to motivation takes the necessity out of things. In a traditional
mechanistic approach, cause leads to effect: If a, b, and c happen, then x,
y, and z must, of necessity, happen. But you don't have to reach your goals
or meet your ideals, and they can change along the way. Teleology
acknowledges that life is hard and uncertain, but it always has room for
change!
Another major influence on Adler's thinking was the
philosopher Hans Vaihinger, who wrote a book called The Philosophy of "As
If." Vaihinger believed that ultimate truth would always be beyond us,
but that, for practical purposes, we need to create partial truths. His main
interest was science, so he gave as examples such partial truths as protons
and electrons, waves of light, gravity as distortion of space, and so on.
Contrary to what many of us non-scientists tend to assume, these are not
things that anyone has seen or proven to exist: They are useful constructs.
They work for the moment, let us do science, and hopefully will lead to
better, more useful constructs. We use them "as if" they were true. He
called these partial truths fictions.
Vaihinger, and Adler, pointed out that we use these
fictions in day to day living as well. We behave as if we knew the world
would be here tomorrow, as if we were sure what good and bad are all about,
as if everything we see is as we see it, and so on. Adler called this
fictional finalism. You can understand the phrase most easily if you
think about an example: Many people behave as if there were a heaven or a
hell in their personal future. Of course, there may be a heaven or a hell,
but most of us don't think of this as a proven fact. That makes it a
"fiction" in Vaihinger's and Adler's sense of the word. And finalism refers
to the teleology of it: The fiction lies in the future, and yet influences
our behavior today.
Adler added that, at the center of each of our lifestyles,
there sits one of these fictions, an important one about who we are and
where we are going.
Social interest
Second in importance only to striving for perfection is
the idea of social interest or social feeling (originally called
Gemeinschaftsgefuhl or "community feeling"). In keeping with his holism,
it is easy to see that anyone "striving for perfection" can hardly do so
without considering his or her social environment. As social animals, we
simply don't exist, much less thrive, without others, and even the most
resolute people-hater forms that hatred in a social context!
Adler felt that social concern was not simply inborn, nor
just learned, but a combination of both: It is based on an innate
disposition, but it has to be nurtured to survive. That it is to some extent
innate is shown by the way babies and small children often show sympathy for
others without having been taught to do so. Notice how, when one baby in a
nursery begins to cry, they all begin to cry. Or how, when we walk into a
room where people are laughing, we ourselves begin to smile.
And yet, right along with the examples of how generous
little children can be to others, we have examples of how selfish and cruel
they can be. Although we instinctively seem to know that what hurts him can
hurt me, and vice versa, we also instinctively seem to know that, if we have
to choose between it hurting him and it hurting me, we'll take "hurting him"
every time! So the tendency to empathize must be supported by parents and
the culture at large. Even if we disregard the possibilities of conflict
between my needs and yours, empathy involves feeling the pain of others, and
in a hard world, that can quickly become overwhelming. Much easier to just
"toughen up" and ignore that unpleasant empathy -- unless society steps in
on empathy's behalf!
One misunderstanding Adler wanted to avoid was the idea
that social interest was somehow another version of extraversion. Americans
in particular tend to see social concern as a matter of being open and
friendly and slapping people on the back and calling them by their first
names. Some people may indeed express their social concern this way; But
other people just use that kind of behavior to further their own ends. Adler
meant social concern or feeling not in terms of particular social behaviors,
but in the much broader sense of caring for family, for community, for
society, for humanity, even for life. Social concern is a matter of being
useful to others.
On the other hand, a lack of social concern is, for Adler,
the very definition of mental ill-health: All failures -- neurotics,
psychotics, criminals, drunkards, problem children, suicides, perverts, and
prostitutes -- are failures because they are lacking in social interest....
Their goal of success is a goal of personal superiority, and their triumphs
have meaning only to themselves.
Inferiority
Here we are, all of us, "pulled" towards fulfillment,
perfection, self-actualization. And yet some of us -- the failures -- end up
terribly unfulfilled, baldly imperfect, and far from self-actualized. And
all because we lack social interest, or, to put it in the positive form,
because we are too self-interested. So what makes so many of us
self-interested?
Adler says it's a matter of being overwhelmed by our
inferiority. If you are moving along, doing well, feeling competent, you
can afford to think of others. If you are not, if life is getting the best
of you, then your attentions become increasingly focussed on yourself.
Obviously, everyone suffers from inferiority in one form
or another. For example, Adler began his theoretical work considering
organ inferiority, that is, the fact that each of us has weaker, as well
as stronger, parts of our anatomy or physiology. Some of us are born with
heart murmurs, or develop heart problems early in life; Some have weak
lungs, or kidneys, or early liver problems; Some of us stutter or lisp; Some
have diabetes, or asthma, or polio; Some have weak eyes, or poor hearing, or
a poor musculature; Some of us have innate tendencies to being heavy, others
to being skinny; Some of us are retarded, some of us are deformed; Some of
us are terribly tall or terribly short; And so on and so on.
Adler noted that many people respond to these organic
inferiorities with compensation. They make up for their deficiencies
in some way: The inferior organ can be strengthened and even become stronger
than it is in others; Or other organs can be overdeveloped to take up the
slack; Or the person can psychologically compensate for the organic problem
by developing certain skills or even certain personality styles. There are,
as you well know, many examples of people who overcame great physical odds
to become what those who are better endowed physically wouldn't even dream
of!
Sadly, there are also many people who cannot handle their
difficulties, and live lives of quiet despair. I would guess that our
optimistic, up-beat society seriously underestimates their numbers.
But Adler soon saw that this is only part of the picture.
Even more people have psychological inferiorities. Some of us are
told that we are dumb, or ugly, or weak. Some of us come to believe that we
are just plain no good. In school, we are tested over and over, and given
grades that tell us we aren't as good as the next person. Or we are demeaned
for our pimples or our bad posture and find ourselves without friends or
dates. Or we are forced into basketball games, where we wait to see which
team will be stuck with us. In these examples, it's not a matter of true
organic inferiority -- we are not really retarded or deformed or weak -- but
we learn to believe that we are. Again, some compensate by becoming good at
what we feel inferior about. More compensate by becoming good at something
else, but otherwise retaining our sense of inferiority. And some just never
develop any self esteem at all.
If the preceding hasn't hit you personally yet, Adler also
noted an even more general form of inferiority: The natural inferiority of
children. all children are, by nature, smaller, weaker, less socially and
intellectually competent, than the adults around them. Adler suggested that,
if we look at children's games, toys, and fantasies, they tend to have one
thing in common: The desire to grow up, to be big, to be an adult. This kind
of compensation is really identical with striving for perfection! Many
children, however, are left with the feeling that other people will always
be better than they are.
If you are overwhelmed by the forces of inferiority --
whether it is your body hurting, the people around you holding you in
contempt, or just the general difficulties of growing up -- you develop an
inferiority complex. Looking back on my own childhood, I can see
several sources for later inferiority complexes: Physically, I've tended to
be heavy, with some real "fat boy" stages along the way; Also, because I was
born in Holland, I didn't grow up with the skills of baseball, football, and
basketball in my genes; Finally, my artistically talented parents often left
me -- unintentionally -- with the feeling that I'd never be as good as they
were. So, as I grew up, I became shy and withdrawn, and concentrated on the
only thing I was good at, school. It took a long time for me to realize my
self-worth.
If you weren't "super-nerd," you may have had one of the
most common inferiority complexes I've come across: "Math phobia!" Perhaps
it started because you could never remember what seven times eight was.
Every year, there was some topic you never quite got the hang of. Every
year, you fell a little further behind. And then you hit the crisis point:
Algebra. How could you be expected to know what "x" is when you still didn't
know what seven times eight was?
Many, many people truly believe that they are not meant to
do math, that they are missing that piece of their brains or something. I'd
like to tell you here and now that anyone can do math, if they are taught
properly and when they are really ready. That aside, you've got to wonder
how many people have given up being scientists, teachers, business people,
or even going to college, because of this inferiority complex.
But the inferiority complex is not just a little problem,
it's a neurosis, meaning it's a life-size problem. You become shy and
timid, insecure, indecisive, cowardly, submissive, compliant, and so on. You
begin to rely on people to carry you along, even manipulating them into
supporting you: "You think I'm smart / pretty / strong / sexy / good, don't
you?" Eventually, you become a drain on them, and you may find yourself by
yourself. Nobody can take all that self-centered whining for long!
There is another way in which people respond to
inferiority besides compensation and the inferiority complex: You can also
develop a superiority complex. The superiority complex involves
covering up your inferiority by pretending to be superior. If you feel
small, one way to feel big is to make everyone else feel even smaller!
Bullies, braggarts, and petty dictators everywhere are the prime example.
More subtle examples are the people who are given to attention-getting
dramatics, the ones who feel powerful when they commit crimes, and the ones
who put others down for their gender, race, ethnic origins, religious
beliefs, sexual orientation, weight, height, etc. etc. Even more subtle
still are the people who hide their feelings of worthlessness in the
delusions of power afforded by alcohol and drugs.
Psychological types
Although all neurosis is, for Adler, a matter of
insufficient social interest, he did note that three types could be
distinguished based on the different levels of energy they involved:
The first is the ruling type. They are, from
childhood on, characterized by a tendency to be rather aggressive and
dominant over others. Their energy -- the strength of their striving after
personal power -- is so great that they tend to push over anything or
anybody who gets in their way. The most energetic of them are bullies and
sadists; somewhat less energetic ones hurt others by hurting themselves, and
include alcoholics, drug addicts, and suicides.
The second is the leaning type. They are sensitive
people who have developed a shell around themselves which protects them, but
they must rely on others to carry them through life's difficulties. They
have low energy levels and so become dependent. When overwhelmed, they
develop what we typically think of as neurotic symptoms: phobias, obsessions
and compulsions, general anxiety, hysteria, amnesias, and so on, depending
on individual details of their lifestyle.
The third type is the avoiding type. These have the
lowest levels of energy and only survive by essentially avoiding life --
especially other people. When pushed to the limits, they tend to become
psychotic, retreating finally into their own personal worlds.
There is a fourth type as well: the socially useful
type. This is the healthy person, one who has both social interest and
energy. Note that without energy, you can't really have social interest,
since you wouldn't be able to actually do anything for anyone!
Adler noted that his four types looked very much like the
four types proposed by the ancient Greeks. They, too, noticed that some
people are always sad, others always angry, and so on. But they attributed
these temperaments (from the same root as temperature) to the relative
presence of four bodily fluids called humors.
If you had too much yellow bile, you would be choleric
(hot and dry) and angry all the time. The choleric is, roughly, the
ruling type.
If you had too much phlegm, you would be phlegmatic
(cold and wet) and be sluggish. This is roughly the leaning type.
If you had too much black bile -- and we don't know what
the Greeks were referring to here -- you would be melancholy (cold
and dry) and tend to be sad constantly. This is roughly the avoiding type.
And, if you had a lot of blood relative to the other
humors, you be in a good humor, sanguine (warm and moist). This
naturally cheerful and friendly person represents the socially useful type.
One word of warning about Adler's types: Adler believed
very strongly that each person is a unique individual with his or her own
unique lifestyle. The idea of types is, for him, only a heuristic
device, meaning a useful fiction, not an absolute reality!
Childhood
Adler, like Freud, saw personality or lifestyle as
something established quite early in life. In fact, the prototype of
your lifestyle tends to be fixed by about five years old. New experiences,
rather than change that prototype, tend to be interpreted in terms of the
prototype, "force fit," in other words, into preconceived notions, just like
new acquaintances tend to get "force fit" into our stereotypes.
Adler felt that there were three basic childhood
situations that most contribute to a faulty lifestyle. The first is one
we've spoken of several times: organ inferiorities, as well as early
childhood diseases. They are what he called "overburdened," and if someone
doesn't come along to draw their attention to others, they will remain
focussed on themselves. Most will go through life with a strong sense of
inferiority; A few will overcompensate with a superiority complex. Only with
the encouragement of loved ones will some truly compensate.
The second is pampering. Many children are taught,
by the actions of others, that they can take without giving. Their wishes
are everyone else's commands. This may sound like a wonderful situation,
until you realize that the pampered child fails in two ways: First, he
doesn't learn to do for himself, and discovers later that he is truly
inferior; And secondly, he doesn't learn any other way to deal with others
than the giving of commands. And society responds to pampered people in only
one way: hatred.
The third is neglect. A child who is neglected or
abused learns what the pampered child learns, but learns it in a far more
direct manner: They learn inferiority because they are told and shown every
day that they are of no value; They learn selfishness because they are
taught to trust no one. If you haven't known love, you don't develop a
capacity for it later. We should note that the neglected child includes not
only orphans and the victims of abuse, but the children whose parents are
never there, and the ones raised in a rigid, authoritarian manner.
Birth order
Adler must be credited as the first theorist to include
not only a child's mother and father and other adults as early influence on
the child, but the child's brothers and sisters as well. His consideration
of the effects of siblings and the order in which they were born is probably
what Adler is best-known for. I have to warn you, though, that Adler
considered birth-order another one of those heuristic ideas -- useful
fictions -- that contribute to understanding people, but must be not be
taken too seriously.
The only child is more likely than others to be
pampered, with all the ill results we've discussed. After all, the parents
of the only child have put all their eggs in one basket, so to speak, and
are more likely to take special care -- sometimes anxiety-filled care -- of
their pride and joy. If the parents are abusive, on the other hand, the only
child will have to bear that abuse alone.
The first child begins life as an only child, with
all the attention to him- or herself. Sadly, just as things are getting
comfortable, the second child arrives and "dethrones" the first. At
first, the child may battle for his or her lost position. He or she might
try acting like the baby -- after all, it seems to work for the baby! --
only to be rebuffed and told to grow up. Some become disobedient and
rebellious, others sullen and withdrawn. Adler believes that first children
are more likely than any other to become problem children. More positively,
first children are often precocious. They tend to be relatively solitary and
more conservative than the other children in the family.
The second child is in a very different situation:
He or she has the first child as a sort of "pace-setter," and tends to
become quite competitive, constantly trying to surpass the older child. They
often succeed, but many feel as if the race is never done, and they tend to
dream of constant running without getting anywhere. Other "middle" children
will tend to be similar to the second child, although each may focus on a
different "competitor."
The youngest child is likely to be the most
pampered in a family with more than one child. After all, he or she is the
only one who is never dethroned! And so youngest children are the second
most likely source of problem children, just behind first children. On the
other hand, the youngest may also feel incredible inferiority, with everyone
older and "therefore" superior. But, with all those "pace-setters" ahead,
the youngest can also be driven to exceed all of them.
Who is a first, second, or youngest child isn't as obvious
as it might seem. If there is a long stretch between children, they may not
see themselves and each other the same way as if they were closer together.
There are eight years between my first and second daughter and three between
the second and the third: That would make my first daughter an only child,
my second a first child, and my third the second and youngest! And if some
of the children are boys and some girls, it makes a difference as well. A
second child who is a girl might not take her older brother as someone to
compete with; A boy in a family of girls may feel more like the only child;
And so on. As with everything in Adler's system, birth order is to be
understood in the context of the individual's own special circumstances.
Diagnosis
In order to help you to discover the "fictions" your
lifestyle is based upon, Adler would look at a great variety of things --
your birth-order position, for example. First, he might examine you and your
medical history for any possible organic roots to your problem. A serious
illness, for example, may have side effects that closely resemble neurotic
and psychotic symptoms.
In your very first session with you, he might ask for your
earliest childhood memory. He is not so much looking for the truth
here as for an indication of that early prototype of your present lifestyle.
If your earliest memory involves security and a great deal of attention,
that might indicate pampering; If you recall some aggressive competition
with your older brother, that might suggest the strong strivings of a second
child and the "ruling" type of personality; If your memory involves neglect
and hiding under the sink, it might mean severe inferiority and avoidance;
And so on.
He might also ask about any childhood problems you may
have had: Bad habits involving eating or the bathroom might indicate ways in
which you controlled your parents; Fears, such as a fear of the dark or of
being left alone, might suggest pampering; Stuttering is likely to mean that
speech was associated with anxiety; Overt aggression and stealing may be
signs of a superiority complex; Daydreaming, isolation, laziness, and lying
may be various ways of avoiding facing one's inferiorities.
Like Freud and Jung, dreams (and daydreams) were important
to Adler. He took a more direct approach to them, though: Dreams are an
expression of your style of life and, far from contradicting your daytime
feelings, are unified with your conscious life. Usually, they reflect the
goals you have and the problems you face in reaching them. If you can't
remember any dreams, Adler isn't put off: Go ahead and fantasize right then
and there. Your fantasies will reflect your lifestyle just as well.
Adler would also pay attention to how you express
yourself: Your posture, the way you shake hands, the gestures you use, how
you move, your "body language," as we say today. He notes that pampered
people often lean against something! Even your sleep postures may contribute
some insight: A person who sleeps in the fetal position with the covers over
his or her head is clearly different from one who sprawls over the entire
bed completely uncovered!
He would also want to know the exogenous factors, the
events that triggered the symptoms that concern you. He gives a number of
common triggers: Sexual problems, like uncertainty, guilt, the first time,
impotence, and so on; The problems women face, such as pregnancy and
childbirth and the onset and end of menstruation; Your love life, dating,
engagement, marriage, and divorce; Your work life, including school, exams,
career decisions, and the job itself; And mortal danger or the loss of a
loved one.
Last, and not least, Adler was open to the less rational
and scientific, more art-like side of diagnosis: He suggested we not ignore
empathy, intuition, and just plain guess-work!
Therapy
There are considerable differences between Adler's therapy
and Freud's: First, Adler preferred to have everyone sitting up and talking
face to face. Further, he went to great lengths to avoid appearing too
authoritarian. In fact, he advised that the therapist never allow the
patient to force him into the role of an authoritarian figure, because that
allows the patient to play some of the same games he or she is likely to
have played many times before: The patient may set you up as a savior, only
to attack you when you inevitably reveal your humanness. By pulling you
down, they feel as if they are raising themselves, with their neurotic
lifestyles, up.
This is essentially the explanation Adler gave for
resistance: When a patient forgets appointments, comes in late, demands
special favors, or generally becomes stubborn and uncooperative, it is not,
as Freud thought, a matter of repression. Rather, resistance is just a sign
of the patient's lack of courage to give up their neurotic lifestyle.
The patient must come to understand the nature of his or
her lifestyle and its roots in self-centered fictions. This understanding or
insight cannot be forced: If you just tell someone "look, here is your
problem!" he or she will only pull away from you and look for ways of
bolstering their present fictions. Instead, A patient must be brought into
such a state of feeling that he likes to listen, and wants to understand.
Only then can he be influenced to live what he has understood. (Ansbacher
and Ansbacher, 1956, p. 335.) It is the patient, not the therapist, who is
ultimately responsible for curing him- or herself.
Finally, the therapist must encourage the patient, which
means awakening his or her social interest, and the energy that goes with
it. By developing a genuine human relationship with the patient, the
therapist provides the basic form of social interest, which the patient can
then transfer to others.
Discussion
Although Adler's theory may be less interesting than
Freud's, with its sexuality, or Jung's, with its mythology, it has probably
struck you as the most common-sensical of the three. Students generally like
Adler and his theory. In fact, quite a few personality theorists like him,
too. Maslow, for example, once said that, the older he gets, the more right
Adler seems. If you have some knowledge of Carl Rogers' brand of therapy,
you may have noticed how similar it is to Adler's. And a number of students
of personality theories have noted that the theorists called Neo-Freudians
-- Horney, Fromm, and Sullivan -- should really have been called
Neo-Adlerians.
And so the "positives" of Adler's theory don't really need
to be listed: His clear descriptions of people's complaints, his
straight-forward and common-sense interpretations of their problems, his
simple theoretical structure, his trust and even affection for the common
person, all make his theory both comfortable and highly influential.
Problems
Criticisms of Adler tend to involve the issue of whether
or not, or to what degree, his theory is scientific. The mainstream of
psychology today is experimentally oriented, which means, among other
things, that the concepts a theory uses must be measurable and manipulable.
This in turn means that an experimental orientation prefers physical or
behavioral variables. Adler, as you saw, uses basic concepts that are far
from physical and behavioral: Striving for perfection? How do you measure
that? Or compensation? Or feelings of inferiority? Or social interest? The
experimental method also makes a basic assumption: That all things operate
in terms of cause and effect. Adler would certainly agree that physical
things do so, but he would adamantly deny that people do! Instead, he takes
the teleological route, that people are "determined" by their ideals, goals,
values, "final fictions." Teleology takes the necessity out of things: A
person doesn't have to respond a certain way to a certain circumstance; A
person has choices to make; A person creates his or her own personality or
lifestyle. From the experimental perspective, these things are illusions
that a scientist, even a personality theorist, dare not give in to.
Even if you are open to the teleological approach, though,
there are criticisms you can make regarding how scientific Adler's theory
is: Many of the details of his theory are too anecdotal, that is, are true
in particular cases, but don't necessarily have the generality Adler seems
to claim for them. A first child (even broadly defined) doesn't necessarily
feel dethroned, nor a second child necessarily feel competitive, for
example.
Adler could, however, respond to these criticisms very
easily: First, didn't we just finish saying that, if you accept teleology,
nothing about human personality is necessary. And secondly, didn't he go to
great lengths to explain his ideas about fictional finalism? All of his
concepts are useful constructs, not absolute truths, and science is just a
matter of creating increasingly useful constructs. So if you have better
ideas, let's hear them!
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